Culture, Poem

Time, Stress and a Cry (Etheree)

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Relentless foe
Never on my side
Greatest causer of stress
Draining tranquil life from me
Causing emotional turmoil
Laughing at my swift raising heartbeat
Relishing in my scurrying around
Doesn’t stop, won’t care, just keeps going
He won’t wait for anybody
No matter how much you plead
Nor how much you appeal
Implore all you want
He won’t listen
He likes stress
I cry

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the pressures that time puts on you? Do you often feel like, “If I just had more time?” Do you find that the lack of it in your life causes you stress.  I do.

This poem was inspired today as I was driving home from dropping my husband off at the airport.  The time has finally come for the pre-release of our newest feature-length film, “Internal Mazes”.  Life has been crazy busy, to say the least.  It has caused exhaustion, stress, bad attitudes and yucky emotions. It’s at times like these that kindness, sensitivity and affection take a back seat.

I found myself sitting in the car, just before pulling out, breathing for a second – and then it came – the cry.  Even now, in just writing this, I cry. When stress gets too much for me – when I’m overwhelmed with all that needs to be done – my reaction is to cry (that is after all of the freaking out and running around like a chicken with its head cut off).

How do you react to stress? How do you handle having too much to do in so little time? Do you make a list? Do you compose yourself and think things through calmly? Or do you freak out, like me?

53 thoughts on “Time, Stress and a Cry (Etheree)”

  1. I’m sorry to hear about your stress of late. 😦 There are times that I want to scream and there are times that I want to give up. But, even at the eleventh hour, I get back to facing the challenge. I tell myself to do the best that I can, and let all else follow. I’ve come to realize that it’s just life being life. Just think, Staci, in a very short time the premiere will have passed and you’ll sip on your favorite wine, proud that you have again dealt with so many responsibilities successfully.

    1. Yea, it’s been sooooo crazy, stressful, busy. And being a woman, if my house isn’t clean, I freak. It’s extra tough when I have to help my aspie son with homeword. I just feel emotional right now. But boy, am I ever looking forward to kicking back afterwards, eating something yummy with my hubby and having a nice glass of red. Awwwwwwww.
      Thanks Rob

      1. A glass of wine with a loved one can sooth the soul and heart. :-).

      2. Hahahaha, I literally laughed out loud. Yea, I’m the one on the diet. He, hmmmmm, not so much. He thinks I’m soooo crazy. Yes, the coke is for him, my friend. I’ll have to stick to one glass (ok, maybe 1 1/2 glasses) of red. But then again, I’ll probably be drinking it on the 26th of the month, when he gets back. Or maybe I should wait until June 1st. What do you think?

      3. hahahahaha. Ok, I said I wanted to relax, but not to the point of no return my friend. Eek, he’ll be gone for 12 days. I think I’d die.

  2. Stacy, gostei bastante do poema e do texto que vem logo em seguida.
    Eu gosto bastante de refletir e escrever sobre o tempo.
    O tempo que não volta mais…
    O que virá…
    O que não passa e nem percebemos…
    O que percebemos tarde demais
    O tempo que escapa por entre os dedos…
    O tempo que não temos para coisas importantes
    A velocidade do tempo na modernidade…
    Vejo que uma saída pra todo estresse, ansiedade, correria é transformar tudo isso em arte. Assim como você fez muito bem neste post.
    Em umas das fases mais corridas e angustiantes da minha vida em relação à correria, eu voltei a escrever num caderninho que minha esposa (que você bem conhece) me deu. O jeito é “reciclar” os acontecimentos… dando a eles uma nova finalidade.
    Parabéns pela sensibilidade!

    1. Muito obrigada Adriano. Fico super feliz que você gostou. E o que você escreveu em seu comentário é genial. Me faz refletir e pensar mais profundo no assunto.
      Pois é Adriano. Eu concordo totalmente com você. Parece que as horas que eu mais crio, que a criatividade mais flui é quando estou estressada, ansiosa e precisando desabafar. Não estou dizendo que são as únicas horas que eu crio, mas parece que a emoção e intensidade fica mais forte.
      “O jeito é “reciclar” os acontecimentos… dando a eles uma nova finalidade.”
      –Amei isso aqui. Vou traduzir isso para inglês e refletir mais.
      Outra coisa, sua poema sobre os pássaros na rua Espirito Santo me inspirou a escrever uma também. É um Haiku. Logo logo vou postar. 🙂

      1. Bom dia, Staci!
        É bem isso mesmo sobre desabafar. Teve um poema que li, acho que da Dulce Morais, que dizia mais ou menos assim: “A poesia diz para o escritor: – Pegue o papel e a caneta, vamos conversar”. E me vejo muitas vezes assim, parece um convite da própria poesia.
        Nossa! Fico muito feliz em saber que meu poema inspirou outro 🙂
        Já tá dando cria! Estou muito curioso pra ver o Haiku. Quando sair, me avise, por favor!
        Um grande abraço!

  3. I have felt like that, so stressed and wishing there was more time and getting to the point of tears. I hope things slow down a little for you. Maybe your energy level is convincing you to take on too much? Then there’s the consideration that what you are taking on isn’t really stuff you enjoy or value. That can make a huge difference to me. If it’s something I really enjoy or value, I’m always amazed at how well I handle the stress. It is too bad that we tend to throw the good things out like being kind, sensitive, affectionate when we have so much to do. (I’m betting those things are things you value!). Love the poem!

    1. I have never been one that has handled stress very well, unfortunately. We have just been sooooo busy lately, with the premiere of “Internal Mazes”, our second feature-length film, coming up. Plus, this weekend we had some very prominent people here for a conference and there was breakfast and dinner and picking up at the airport and being at the conference… amongst other things.
      Yes, it really is too bad that a little stress can cause such awful attitudes. All niceness and good intentions seem to just go out the window. Hmmmmm. Wish my hubby and I had a better goodbye.
      Thanks Cynthia. I’m so glad you liked the poem.

  4. I often wish I didn’t need sleep. Imagine all I could get done with those hours if I didn’t need sleep!

    1. Thanks Audrey. Oh yes, stress is something I’ve never handled well, let alone perfectly. Interesting that you wrote about breathing a lot. That’s exactly what I did as I sat down to lunch – breathed a few deep breaths before eating my food.

      Amazing journey indeed. Can’t wait to see how the outcome will be. It will be released a week later in two cities, and then more from then on.

  5. I think a good cry is God’s way of washing away some of our stress. When frustration comes we can’t do anything but cry. I have a habit of holding things in, but when I can’t go any further, the tears start to gush! I will pray that you receive some comfort soon!

    1. Well said friend. God’s way of washing away stress. I was just reading recently about what actually physically happens when we cry. There is a difference between emotional tears and tears that come from cutting an onion. The ‘onion’ tears are 98% water, whereas several chemicals are found in emotional tears. Go figure.
      I’m not one for holding things in, unless the situation doesn’t really permit it. I usually let it out.
      Thank you so much for your prayers. They are much appreciated.

  6. Hope this wave has passed Staci, it always does….and when it gets too much for me, I cry too, or listen to sad songs and cry some more, get it all out..,very often I journal about my thoughts and feelings and often the stress gets transformed into excitement, enthusiasm and above all gratitude. Laughter helps me every time too, huge help that is, something funny can change it all so quickly 🙂 I’m learning to not take these waves too seriously now. I have feelings, I am not my feelings, I have thoughts but I am not my thoughts… this vein, I come back to my center and my core….
    Love and hugsssssss darling Staci and congratulations on the film 🙂

    1. Very well said Neeta, “I have feelings, I am not my feelings”. Things have just been soooo busy lately, and today my hubby had to travel for the finalizing all that is needed for the premiere of the film. Things have been a bit hectic/chaotic. Today I just got overwhelmed. But I see crying as a good thing. Releasing all of those toxic chemicals. I’m still emotional, but hopefully a good night’s sleep will do the trick.
      Thanks so much, once again Neeta. You’re a sweetie.

  7. Staci, So excited for you and your husband about your film! Yay you! I hope you can take a moment, at any time, to take a deep breath, even just one….your glass of red with your hubby sounds luvverley–do that. I also love the quote: “Let out a little more string out on your kite.”~Alan Cohen

    Peace, girl. xoxo

    1. Awwww, thanks so much Chloe. Actually, before sitting down to eat lunch today that’s exactly what I did, took a few deep breaths. The glass of red will be very nice indeed. Funny though because I’ll be having my glass of wine, while he has his coke. He doesn’t drink alcohol at all. Says it gives him a headache.
      Thanks for the quote too. I had never heard that one before. It seems I keep letting a little more out each day (at least up until today). Hoping that a good nights sleep will strengthen that string.

  8. Oh my goodness!! Congrats! I just saw the trailer (my english subtitles thing didnn’t work, so I am not sure of everything they said) – but it looks fantastic! I am so excited for you guys.

    Have a glass, have a good cry, let it all out. We have that built-in release valve, don’t we? (I think I mentioned this already today back on my home turf…ha ha). But why not? I sometimes cry at a dog food commercial or gum ad or something dumb. Not sure, but there is something that needs to express itself and there are no words. So we shed the tears. No biggie.

    Breathe and know all is well, my friend.

    Wonderful news…oh so excited 🙂


      I literally laughed out loud when you mentioned that you cry at a dog food commercial or gum ad. That’s so cute.
      Oh yes, breathe. I decided to take a good deep breaths before eating lunch today (after my freak-out and whirlwind of activity).
      Still emotional. Feel like anything would make me cry right now. But that’s ok, right. Tomorrow is a new day.
      OMG, I’m so bummed you couldn’t get the subtitles working. Did you press on the captions button on the bottom right hand corner of the youtube screen?
      Thanks so much for making me smile to end my night.
      Bless you tons and big hug.

  9. Hi Stacilys,

    Interesting how time is a male figure in your poem 🙂 I really liked your poem and it is as if you are talking to your other self, warning her about time, opening her eyes, asking her to see the truth.

    I agree with you, stress brings out the worst in us, so just remind yourself that it will pass, everything always does, and as you go on this bumpy ride, turn a blind eye on the housework and all that is part of our daily mundane existence, prioritize and remember, we are not SUPER WOMEN . Crying helps but don’t cry too much, it’s a sign that you need to give yourself a break. Listen to those first tears, take a deep breath and slow down wherever u can. Make peace with time, and remember time is always around 🙂

    1. I hear you there. “We are not Super Woman.” In fact, I said that to my husband yesterday, just a few hours before he traveled. The housework I can let go of for a certain amount of time, but with two little ones, if you don’t keep on top of things, all-of-a-sudden it looks like you’re living in a dump. Prioritizing is definitely something I have difficulty with. I only cried a bit. Was pretty emotional the rest of the day. But today is a new day. Thank God for mother-in-laws. She offered to have the kids stay with her all morning to try and get some things done around here.
      Thanks for such a thoughtful comment.

      1. That’s great to hear. Children as beautiful and precious as they are, can be emotionally and physically draining, it’s good you managed to get a break 🙂

  10. I cry and than I pray silently for 2 minutes and try to come back in action 🙂
    And still if its not working I cry a little more…but I keep telling myself only one thing…by end everything will fall into places thats my mantra 🙂

    1. Oh yes, crying i so cleansing. And I pray too. My mom used to tell me that everything always seems to work out in the end too. And it’s so true.
      Thanks Aarya.

  11. I sometimes feel like this with blogging. I never seem to have enough time to visit everyone’s blog that I want to visit. I try to tell myself that it’s okay, but it still bothers me! When I get stressed, I write. I pound on the keyboard and I pray. Great post!

    1. I totally understand. I also want to read and honor all of the amazing bloggers there are.
      Me too. I write when I get stressed as well. It’s like getting it out. Like therapy in a sense. And I also pray. And cry. And hope.
      Thank you Kirsten.

      1. Blogging was actually part if my therapy for overcoming addictions. Whenever I was tempted, I would write a poem. A good cry is extremely cathartic 🙂

      2. Wow, really? Excellent.
        Crying is definitely cathartic, as when we ’emotionally’ cry (as opposed to crying because of an onion or something like that) toxic chemicals are released from our bodies. Hormones and endorphines as well.
        That is so great that blogging has had that effect on you. I never even knew about blogging and the therapeutic effects of writing when I gave up my dependencies.

  12. Stacilys, I think you need to take some things off your plate. I learned the hard way that trying to be Super Woman will damage you and your relationships. Begin small. Pick one thing that isn’t bearing fruit spiritually or adding peace to your daily life and stop it. Learning when and how to say no is mandatory if you want to live a life filled with His peace, not stress. Take it from a recovering control freak.

    1. I think it was this specific weekend actually. We are about to release our second feature-length film and my husband had to travel, as well as other commitments. He was unable to help me at all with the things he normally helped with. Plus I had a huge headache Saturday and was unable to accomplish much. As of now, I am stressing out more because of my son who has Asperger’s syndrome. Brazil is about 30-40 years behind in their understanding and inclusion of those with autism. His school really wants to work with inclusion, but have no idea how to go about it. I often feel as if I know more than them, and the professional psychologists, etc. They put him on ritalin recently and after today’s episode, I’m taking him off of it. I had to get him from school because he freaked out in class and all. Ok, enough of my ranting. Thanks Rita and God bless.

      1. No pat or quick solution for this. However, I do have some expertise in this area. I was a special education educator for 27 years. 20 of those years assessing children for special education. I was also a member of an autism assessment team for 5 years. If you have any questions, please ask. You might want to read my post Thursday. It’s my story– a recovering control freak. Take a deep breath and let God be God in this situation. Love, Rita.

      2. Oh wow. I have an autistic brother, so it’s nothing new to me. My big problem is the lack of understanding and services where I’m at. I will be in Canada next month and I plan on seeking out all I possibly can, especially when it comes to working with him in the classroom. He is in a class of 29 kids and only one teacher. No helper. Not even a specialist at the school to go to. Really tough. He often doesn’t do the activities assigned in class. I stress out at home trying to find ways to engage him. Ugh. Maybe if you have any suggestions for engaging him, I would much appreciate it.
        Thanks a ton Rita.

  13. Crying is great. Also, I came up with throwing it all up in the air.. everything that is stressing, just everything.. I do this a lot. And I stop and clear my screen like a movie screen. I stop and find a little stillness inside.. letting go of the outer and inner chaos..or turning it down.. but letting it be there.
    Great post. So honest.

    1. Oh, thank you so much for your lovely comment. That’s great, “I stop and find a little stillness inside…” Beautiful. I do that also when there is chaos in my life. I need to do that.

  14. When things get too much for me, I definitely let a lot of that stress and hurt by crying, sometimes hysterically. I think it’s a good way to let go of some of those pent up emotions by giving them some sort of physical release.

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